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How can you maintain a work-life balance as a lawyer

How can you maintain a work-life balance as a lawyer

If you ask several lawyers whether it’s possible to maintain a balance between work and personal life, you’ll get different answers. Some believe it’s achievable, while others beg to differ. We fall into the first category. In our eyes, lawyers’ work-life balance is something that anyone can pull off, and in the following few paragraphs, we’ll explain how.

Set Boundaries Between Work and Personal Time

It’s easy to lose sight of what’s appropriate and healthy when you get a taste of success. Unfortunately, lawyers are no exception to this rule. Although their jobs are full of ups and downs, there’s just something inherently greedy about them. They thrive on being the best of the bunch. It’s almost as if all those TV shows about law firms aren’t exaggerating at all. Yet, that comes at a cost.


The line between being a successful lawyer and a person with a healthy personal life is all too thin, which is why it’s essential to set clear boundaries as soon as you enter the world of law, courthouses, and big trials with media coverage. 


But how do you do that? Firstly, we suggest focusing on a maximum of three daily activities. Regardless of how much work you have, start each day with those three and consider those 24h successful.


Furthermore, prioritize self-reflection and self-care needs. Reflection is all about planning and then evaluating what you’ve done. Once that is over, think about what it cost you in terms of health. If the cost was undeniable, shuffle your cards differently before you engage in work again. And if it all becomes too much at some point, do take time off and go on vacation. No kind of work should stand in its way.

Track Time and Follow Your Schedule

No matter which work-life balance guide for lawyers you look up, they’ll all talk about schedules. But it’s not enough just to mention the importance of a well-organized day. You should understand how to manage it properly at all times. Schedules aren’t just about making your desk look professional — they’re useful tools in tracking your time and balancing out life and work.


So, what should your professional-life schedule look like? Before anything, it should clearly state when you wake up and go to sleep. It should also have space for a couple of downtime hours a day. In between those lines, you can slip work-related tasks, meetings, and deadlines. Rest is essential for anyone, so that means lawyers too.

Go On a Vacation

We’ve briefly mentioned vacations, so let’s emphasize their importance now, shall we? Most consider them privileges that are only possible when your work allows for them. However, this is a misconception. Vacations are important parts of our professional lives, as they allow us to unwind and recharge. Even if work isn’t all roses, you should be able to call it a day and head off to take some time off.


Of course, you don’t need to pay ridiculous amounts of money to have quality time with your friends or family. Vacations can also be staycations if you know what we mean. It doesn’t matter if you’re on a tropical beach, drinking cocktails from coconuts, or if you’re snowed-in inside your apartment. The only thing to keep in mind is that you shouldn’t think about work-related issues to regain your focus.

Spend More Time With Yourself

When someone mentions lawyers and the legal industry, most of us imagine folks in fancy clothes constantly talking about business. And although they’re serious people, they can have fun from time to time. Being a lawyer doesn’t forbid you from having a hobby or two and exploring it to its fullest. Moreover, if you want to reduce stress, we strongly suggest that you maximize your personal time.


To improve your mental health, many therapists will propose pursuing an activity that would make you happy when you were young. It might be traveling, painting, collecting items, or anything else for that matter. Whatever you choose as your excuse to have some time alone, it’s okay. Participating in such activities will reduce the load gathered throughout all those long hours of court hearings and client meetings.

Don’t Own Up Everything — Delegate Tasks if You Can

Being successful in any business usually comes down to hard work and determination. That’s all true, but something appears missing. Success rarely comes from one person only. It’s a product of teamwork. The chances of accomplishing something skyrocket when several people push to accomplish the same goal. But that’s not all. Teamwork also allows people to take a break when their batteries begin running out.


But what does any of this have to do with maintaining a proper professional-private balance in your life? Well, it’s simple. No matter how diligent and proactive you consider yourself a lawyer to be, you shouldn’t do everything. In fact, delegate tasks with colleagues. This will, in turn, up your business as well as your mental and physical state as you’ll have a more defined barrier between your job and private life.

Manage Your Emotions

Lastly, we need to mention emotions. We can talk about flexible working hours, parental leave, hobbies, etc., but there’s so much more to fine-tuning a healthy work-life balance if you’re a lawyer. Like anyone else, suits have emotions. But lawyers rarely show them while working. This is a way to control the situation around them and accomplish tasks on time and successfully. At least, that’s how the top honchos do it.


Don’t get us wrong. We’re not suggesting that you turn all toxic and hide emotions so that your work benefits. Quite the opposite. Emotions are what make us human, after all. But it’s how we handle them that separates the successful from those who’re not. You should, therefore, learn what and when to show. If you get that right, you’ll be one step closer to balancing out your work and private life.


All in all, lawyers have it the same as all other people. Stress is on every corner, and it sometimes seems like they can’t get a hold of their lives. If that’s the case with you too, you should pause things and take a close look at yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself all the things we’ve mentioned, and you’ll at least begin your journey towards betterment. And once you do, the only way will be up.

Which Type of Anal Hook Is For You?

Which Type of Anal Hook Is For You?

Would you be brave enough to slide a big, cold anal hook inside you? Or do you want to dominate your slave’s booty with it? Which type of anal hook is for you? Take a look at our full guide on anal hooks to discover the different types of this kinky toy and its naughty uses!

Anal Hooks Are Used in BDSM

Firstly, anal hooks are some of the most intense and kinkiest sex toys in BDSM. They are simply a perfect fit for any dark torture room and any worthy or unworthy anal slave! The hooks are usually made with surgical grade stainless steel that can create an unusual type of pressure during anal play. Doms and subs alike love it!. Plus, it can warm up after insertion, which can intensify the experience even further.

What’s more, this toy has a striking resemblance to a meat hook. Its appearance makes it ideal for humiliation, bondage, and torture. However, since BDSM play is vast, steel anal hooks are intended not only for merciless punishment and brutal torture. They can be used to achieve a sensation similar to butt plugs, albeit one that is much stronger and ideal for rough sex.

All in all, ass hooks are among the most versatile anal toys. They can stimulate the rectum, meaning that they can directly apply pressure on the prostate as well as the vaginal walls. However, since they are not flexible, they can inflict a slightly painful sensation that can lead to some unforgettable sexual pleasure. It’s also possible to try various types of anal hook sex. For example, you can try those for double penetration or oral sex.

Ball on the Insertion Head

So which anal hook would be the best fit for you? The most common anal type has a ball on the front end. Hooks have a J- or U-type curve that follows the shape of the rectum, and most of them are 5 to 10 inches long or more.

Like an anal plug, the traditional type of ass hook is inserted into the anus with the steel ball end first. Additionally, the hook has a metal loop, possibly the most exciting part of the toy. You can attach all sorts of ropes to it. The traditional hook type is most commonly used in predicament bondage as well as in rough sex.

For example, the primary way to use it is to insert the hook (ball first). You can then hook it up to ropes that you can tie to your sub’s wrists, neck, or hair. That way, with any movement, the sub will also move the toy. The result will be pain or pleasure (or a mix of both), depending on what they are hoping to achieve. For this kind of anal hook, you merely need to move it or pull it up to tighten the pressure.

Remember, any mild movement will create a frustratingly intense experience. Additionally, the balls can have a traditional bead-style shape, but you can also find types with cone-shaped balls.

With Multiple Balls

And if one metal ball is not enough, it’s possible to find hooks with several of them. In this case, the hook will resemble a toy with anal beads. The first ball on the insertion head is usually the smallest, and the size will increase towards the base of the hook.

For example, it can have a string of around three or more balls. This type is the best for lovers of anal beads. It can be incredibly strong, and it will please any lover of powerful anal penetration and intense asshole stretching. It’s could be an excellent choice for anal training, but most beginners should go for something that’s not as intimidating.

Nevertheless, multiple balls can allow you to increase the intensity of the already fantastic sensations. Simply use the first ball for light sexual stimulation and then push the hook in further to see what happens!

No Balls at All

And if the anal balls are simply too insense, it’s possible to find hooks without any insertion head.

Fans of BDSM posture training use this type frequently. Without a ball, the hook offers smooth insertion. Plus, this type has a rounded tip. The smooth tip does not stretch out the sphincter too much. However, it still keeps a firm hold on the wearer.

Moreover, this type is perhaps most effective when suspended from the ceiling. Then, the Dom can tighten the rope and increase the pressure on the sub’s sensitive hole. That way, you can either reward or punish the wearer.

Anal Hook With Cock Cage

If you are a fan of femdom, chastity play, or if you’re living the male chastity lifestyle, a hook with a cock cage may well be the ideal choice. It has an angled metal hook that enters the anus from below, and there’s a standard cock cage on the other end. The chastity device has the usual padlock and key that you can use to lock up your partner’s cock or your own.

Of course, as with any cock cage, there is a ring at the base that secures a tight fit. When combined with the steel cage, it prevents erections and sexual stimulation. That is a fantastic device for male confinement and any type of orgasm denial, torture, and similar. However, it’s not entirely impossible to orgasm while the cock is locked up.

Most cages have several openings, and you can stimulate the penis through them. But, the orgasm from this type of stimulation will be much more frustrating without full penile contact. That means that anal hooks with cock cages are simply perfect for any sub or Dom who prefers a ruined orgasm.

Anal Hook With Cock Ring

This type is similar to the previous one, but the only difference is that it doesn’t offer a chastity cage.

Namely, this kind of hook has a ball end for penetration while the other end contains a metal cock ring. This type can produce some of the most powerful orgasms for men. That’s because the ring will squeeze the penis and testicles to provide harder and bigger erections. It can also increase the duration of the erection. Furthermore, with any stimulation, the penis will tug on the ring and the ball-end. That will create an extremely intense effect, and it can lead to powerful prostate massage and unforgettable orgasms.

With Patterns or Spins

Lastly, if that’s not enough, you can choose a hook with a pattern, like a spin or a spiral. This kind is not as common, but it will provide extra stimulation. It has a special twisting or threaded pattern on the ball or insertion end that will offer an even more intense sensation.

In any case, it’s important to remember that anal hooks are not for newbies. Many BDSM lovers use them as a form of an ultimate test for their slaves. Using anal hooks can completely incapacitate the wearer!

That can range from discomfort, pain, to pleasure. If you surrender control or gain control of someone’s body, you will form a special bond.

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As you’ve seen today, anal hooks can open up a whole new world of pleasure or pain for you. So if you think you’re ready for intense anal penetration or want to dominate your slave’s ass, order an anal hook today! Just remember to use a safe word. Good luck!

Six of the best law books

Six of the best law books

We asked you to tell us which books a future law student should read. Here are the top nominations – and some of the other contenders

The Rule of Law by Tom Bingham

Whatever did inquiring legal minds read before Lord Bingham published The Rule of Law? This slim volume has rapidly become the book Guardian-reading lawyers are most likely to recommend to anyone interested in the profession. As Joshua Rozenberg put it: “Bingham’s definition of that much-used term is now entirely authoritative and will probably remain so for the next 120 years or more. In summary, it is ‘that all persons and authorities within the state, whether public or private, should be bound by and entitled to the benefit of laws publicly made, taking effect (generally) in the future and publicly administered in the courts.’

Letters to a Law Student by Nicholas McBride

“Dear Sam, I hope you don’t mind me writing to you in this way…” The only book to receive as many nominations as Bingham’s was Letters to a Law Student, by All Souls fellow and director of studies at Pembroke College, Cambridge. Solicitous, authoritative and hardly discounted even by Amazon, it knows its audience – those who already have a place to read law are advised to skip the first chapters.

Glanville Williams: Learning the Law (ATH Smith)
Welsh legal scholar Williams died in 1997, but Learning the Law lives on – though much of the rest of his prolific output is out of print. His support for legalising abortion and euthanasia, as well as his role in decriminalising suicide in 1961, earned his reputation as a reformer. But not everyone is a fan. “I read it once and I’ve never touched it again,” wrote Stephen Clark (LLB Exeter and about to start his BPTC). “This is supposedly the standard introductory text, but I couldn’t encourage students enough to stay away from it. It really won’t help when it comes to knowing the law, it won’t help when it comes to understanding the law and it won’t impart you with the skills necessary to do well on the LLB.”

What About Law? by Catherine Barnard et al
Recommended by – among others – Southampton University lecturer Mark Telford, What About Law? describes the various fields of law in engaging detail, though is less forthcoming with practical advice. Opens with the legal implications of the wild party 17-year-old Laura throws while her parents are away for the weekend.

Eve Was Framed by Helena Kennedy
Baroness Kennedy, as listeners to her current Radio 4 series will know, is as much concerned with justice as the law. Much of this lively and highly readable book is devoted to exploring the myriad ways in which the legal system has let down women – as lawyers, victims and defendants – though there is also plenty of optimism, particularly about the ability of women to rise to the top of the legal establishment. Kennedy’s Just Law was also nominated.

Bleak House by Charles Dickens
Somewhere in the new Rolls Building, a modern Jarndyce v Jarndyce is doubtless lumbering – or perhaps the Technology and Construction Court is hosting a particularly lengthy dispute involving tree roots. Dickens was a court reporter for four years and undoubtedly drew on his experiences, particularly at the Old Bailey, for his fiction – this coining trial may have inspired part of Great Expectations.

Other nominations
Cardiff and UCL academic Richard Moorhead: The End of Lawyers by Richard Susskind

UK Human Rights Blog editor and 1COR barrister Adam Wagner: Geoffrey Robertson’s The Justice Game

Carrie Alcott: How Law Works by Gary Slapper (“Absolutely brilliant. Have just read it now, going in to my final year, and really wish I’d come across it before I began studying”)

Lila Lamrabert: The Law Machine by Clare Dyer and Marcel Berlins

Michael Zymler and Jennie Evans: How To Win Every Argument: The Use and Abuse of Logic by Madsen Pirie

Jason Miller and Emma Morris: The Case of the Speluncean Explorers by Lon Fuller (Miller: “Jurisprudence isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but it shows a variety of legal and moral viewpoints.”)

Stacey Roden: Learning Legal Rules by James Holland

Paul O’Grady: A Short History of Western Legal Theory by John Kelly

Marika Giles Samson: The Best Defense by Paul Dershowitz

Jack Gilbert: The Colour of Law by Mark Giminez (“on a purely motivational basis”)

How to get your Motivation Back

How to get your Motivation Back

You were so keen at the start of semester, so motivated. Somewhere along the line that fizzled out, and you could really use some motivation right now because assignments are due and exams are edging their way closer. How do you get your law student mojo back?

So far, so good

It probably feels like you’ve achieved very little this semester and that all the work is ahead of you. At risk of sounding dangerously like a motivational speaker, the semester is like climbing a mountain: all you’re looking at is how much you have left to climb, but if you looked back you’d see how far you’ve already come. Okay, well that was embarrassing. No more metaphors, I promise.

But seriously, you’ve done heaps of work already. You’re over half way through the semester. Be proud of what you’ve achieved so far. There’s nothing like past achievements to motivate future ones.

Bigger picture

It’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture when you’re stuck down in the nitty gritty of daily law student life. Who could think about their dream of being a media lawyer when they’re writing a property law assignment?

Regain your motivation by reading a book or watching a show that inspires you about your future career. It could be a book by Geoffrey Robertson QC, or one of Alan Shore’s brilliant closing arguments on Boston Legal. It doesn’t matter what it is, so long as it helps you to view your degree (especially the boring bits) as an essential step along the way to your ultimate goal.

Get some stress relief

Stress can really zap your enthusiasm. Where possible, remove sources of stress from your life.

Stress-relief activities such as going outside for a run (avoid the gym and go outside) will also help you to feel calmer and more positive – it’s pretty impressive what a bit of sunshine can do for your mood.

For the couch potato-types (myself included) watch a comedy – it’s hard to be negative when you’re laughing. Music can also be really good for both stress relief and motivation. Eye of the Tiger, anyone?

What do I want?

Another problem can be listening to other people too much. If you do something to please others, it’s unlikely you’ll ever feel motivated and passionate about it. And don’t let people talk you out of something by telling you that you that it’s ‘competitive’ or that ‘few make it’. Also, ‘everyone else is doing it’ is not really a good reason to do something you’re not interested in.

Sometimes you just have so many distractions that it crowds out your passion for law student-ing. If it’s boring and unimportant, why are you letting it take up so much of your time? Pursue your goals and the motivation will usually follow.

Dealing with disappointment

It’s pretty much inevitable that somewhere in the course of your degree you’re going to experience failure of some variety, and it’ll do nothing for your motivation. It happens to everyone so don’t beat yourself up too much. Or as Dr. Seuss would say: “I’m sorry to say so, but, sadly it’s true that bang-ups and hang-ups can happen to you.”

In a previous semester my favourite subject was Estate Planning. Not only did I love the subject matter (nerd alert) it also just ‘made sense’ to me. I worked really hard on an assignment and was really confident with what I’d handed in. I ended up failing that assessment and for a while I lost the motivation to do any work for the subject. Due to the efforts of a very engaging lecturer, I got my inspiration back and went on to get an overall subject mark that I was happy with.

Having been there, my advice is to learn from your mistakes and don’t let your failures own you. One bad mark doesn’t mean that you’re not capable or worthy of your career ambitions, and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re going to fail the subject. Learn from your mistakes (get advice from your tutor if you need it) and you’ll be a better law student for it.

If all else fails…

If you can’t find the motivation, bribe yourself. I’m serious! Criminal law isn’t your thing but you have to do that assignment. Break it down into small tasks and give yourself rewards for completing them: checking Facebook when you finish that paragraph, having a Milo when you’ve done all your references. Bribery has gotten me through many uninspiring assignments.

Even self-bribery doesn’t always work. Sometimes you’ve just got to plough through it. At the very least, a deadline can be pretty motivating.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: This story was first published on Survive Law on 14 September 2011.

4 Things to Consider Before Going to Law School

4 Things to Consider Before Going to Law School

The law has long been seen as a prestigious career path—and a great option for people with all kinds of skill sets.

But the conversation about law school is filled with a fair amount of doom and gloom these days. The legal industry has contracted seriously in the last few years, and there’s no doubt that JDs face a lot of competition coming out of law school.

Still, if you make the right decision for you as an individual, a law degree can open any number of career doors. Here’s what to consider when deciding whether to take the law school plunge—and how to find the right school for you.

1. The Job Market

It’s no secret that employment prospects for new law school grads have dimmed in the last few years (it’s become such a trope that one Chicago lawyer is even offering a $1,000 scholarship to students who decide not to study law).

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go—it just means you should know what you want out of your legal career and be realistic about getting there. Start by looking at the employment trends—where new JDs are getting jobs, the salaries they’re making, and the un- and under-employment rates at top law schools. You should also look up schools you’re interested in in the American Bar Association’s employment summary reports, which break down bar passage rate, the types of jobs graduates are getting, and where they’re working.

Generally, you’ll want to look for schools where most graduates get full-time, long-term legal jobs within a few months of graduation. If you see that a lot of new JDs end up at part-time or short-term jobs, it’s probably an indication that they’re struggling in the job market. And the last thing you want is to graduate with $100,000 worth of debt and no job prospects.

2. Geography

Knowing where geographically you want to practice law can give you some much-needed direction—law schools often have strong alumni networks and recruiting relationships with firms in particular states and cities. Sometimes these networks are obvious, but often, they’re not (for example, Berkeley sends a lot of graduates to jobs in California, but also to big law firms in New York City). If you know you want to move back to the Bay Area or plan to join your fiancé in Chicago after graduation, look for schools that feed into those regions.

Similarly, a particular industry may have a major presence in a certain geographic area, and that should factor into your search, too. If you’re passionate about a social cause and interested in working for a national advocacy group, for example, you should be looking at law schools that send a lot of graduates to jobs in Washington, D.C. If you’re interested in, say, energy law, target schools in Texas and Louisiana. You can ask admissions officers where each school’s JDs are ending up, or use the law school search tool on Noodle to see which schools feed into the place you want to go.

3. Return on Investment

Higher education has never been more expensive, and law school is no exception. Advice on paying for law school deserves its own post, but before you get that far, do a little research to estimate your return on investment. Payscale offers data on salaries for graduates from law schools in a variety of jobs, so you can think objectively about how much you’re willing to pay and how much debt you’re willing to take on. Some career paths value a legal education even if they don’t require it (think government or policy jobs), so if you go to law school and don’t plan to practice law, take that into account when you look at how all the numbers break down.

And if you’re interested in a public service career, consider paths that offer loan forgiveness. The Public Service Loan Forgiveness program through the U.S. Department of Education forgives federal loans after 10 years of employment in jobs with government entities or nonprofit organizations.

4. Scores
On a more obvious note, your LSAT scores and college GPA will largely determine where you go to law school. So, as you’re thinking about the schools with great employment rates that place graduates in your field and industry of choice, look at their average and target numbers. If your scores aren’t close, it’s worth postponing the application process to focus on boosting your LSAT score or thinking seriously about going. It’s difficult to do, but it’s crucial to your future to look at the numbers and make an informed decision.

Finally, the most important thing is finding the school that’s right for you as an individual. During your research phase, remember to keep asking yourself a key question: Why do you want to go to law school? Yes, you want to apply to the highest quality law schools where you can gain admission, but it’s crucial to find a program that meets your needs and fits your situation. Be honest with yourself about your goals, and the other questions will be much easier to answer.